As I was growing up, my parents prayed for my future spouse. I can remember days of despair after a breakup and my dad hugging me and reminding me that he's still out there, because he's been praying for that man since the day I was born. I thought it was sweet and sentimental, but never really thought too hard about it.
We're fairly new at this whole marriage thing. It's a lot tougher than I expected, but a lot more wonderful, too. This world is hard and there is so much negativity that surrounds all of us, and I don't have control over many things, but I do have control over this. I'm able to pray for him. I listen to friends struggle with relationships or marriages and secretly think to myself how grateful I am that we do have it easy most of the time, but I also know that hard times will come, so the least I can do now is pray. Pray with all my heart.
I want to be all things for Andrew. I want to be his comfort and his support. I want to encourage him and uplift him when he's struggling or has had a hard day. I want to help him be successful with work and in other relationships. I can try to do that and succeed to some extent, but I'll never be enough. As much as I want to, I just can't. I'm not able.
But God is able.
I've learned over the past few months to not just pray for circumstances going on around my husband, but also pray certain verses over him. He is the head of our household and the leader of our family and I so desperately want him to be equipped with the Holy Spirit and covered in prayer on a day to day basis. This world is too cruel not to do that for him.
I heard this quote the other day and it struck a cord in me...
"Determine to pray more words over your marriage than you speak about your marriage." -Lysa TerKeurst
...so that's where I am. That's what I'm doing. Praying over him and our marriage.
Here are the 6 things I pray for specifically:
- I pray for his leadership skills, for him to have courage in situations and not be afraid to stand up and be a leader. This translates into our marriage, into his work life, into our discipline with future children. I pray that he possesses skills that a leader needs to be respected and successful.
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
- I pray for the influence from the people around him. I pray that the friends he chooses and that the people he surrounds himself with are people who encourage him, lift him up, and help with him with his walk with the Lord.
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, one can help the other upBut pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up." Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
- I pray for the influence that he is on the people around him. I pray that he encourages those around him and shows patience, compassion, and kindness with coworkers or others he comes in contact with throughout the day. I pray that others see Christ through him.
"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up." 1 Thessalonians 5:11
- I pray that he seeks the Lord every day. I pray that he has the desire to know the Lord better and make Him known. I pray that he wants to grow in Christ.
"But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ." 2 Peter 3:18
- I pray over his mind, his body, his spirit. I pray that he resists temptations and treats his body as a temple. I pray that Satan's attacks are in vain and that he can stand strong in the face of adversity.
"Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." Romans 12:1-2
- I pray that he seeks the Lord's will for our family, for our marriage, for his career. I pray that he is obedient to God's call and desires to follow His commands. I pray that he always puts God at the top of his priorities, and me second.
"And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love." 2 John 1:6Praying over Andrew is one of the biggest gifts I can give to him and to our marriage, and for now, that's what I'm going to keep doing. There are days when I'm too occupied with myself and my own happenings, and the Lord is quick to remind me that I'm not spending enough time in prayer. I'm nowhere near perfect, but I do have a God who is, and I pray that He pours out his blessings over this new marriage, today and for years to come.
Do you pray over your husband or boyfriend? Single friends, are you praying for the man you're going to marry? Do you think it's important for your relationship or do you feel like it's just going through the motions? I'm eager to hear your thoughts on this topic!